Have you ever found yourself in a bit of a party pickle?

Such as, the invitation says smart casual – well what does that mean exactly?

Or, a birthday invite has some polite poem about not bringing gifts. So do you, because that is the done thing, or not?

Party etiquette can do you head in. 

Most of us ask our network of friends or family, and the wider online community for help. But this can be just as confusing, and the answers will still be varied and based on personal opinion or experience. ARGH!

So what do you do when you have a niggling party pickle that you just can’t solve.

Whether is a backyard bbq, a formal wedding, or a birthday party, here are the 5 questions to answer for your modern party etiquette rules.

1. Communication
Always RSVP. No matter what form the invitation has been given – whether its a causal email or Facebook event, or a formal printed invitation –  it’s important to RSVP as soon as possible.

Be courteous and let the host know whether or not you are able to attend. If plans change, remember to let the host know rather then being a no show.

2. Timing
Pay attention to the type of event and start time listed on the invitation.

Be on time for a wedding. Aim to arrive 15 to 30 minutes earlier then the ceremony scheduled start time.

For everything else, its ok to be fashionably late.

As a general rule of thumb arrive 10 minutes after the start time. This allows the host to have all the last minute prep completed and be relaxed and ready to greet you.

3. What to bring?!!
Ok, this one can get complicated, but follow this guide and you will be fine, just breath 🙂

How much to spend?
Don’t go broke giving a gift. Base your budget on your relationship with the party thrower or wedding couple, as well as, your financial situation. For example, how much you spend on a co-workers farewell will be different to that of a close friend or relative.

When the invitation states ‘don’t bring a thing’.
In your heart of hearts you already know the answer to this. Its acceptable to bring a little something or a gift for the host, but not required. Something like a thank you card with a birthday wish, or a small box of chocolates or bottle of wine for the host.

4. Dress the part
This is sometimes easy to figure out: a BBQ is casual, a wedding is formal. But what about the in-between events? Christmas festive attire or smart casual?

When in doubt, you can’t go wrong with a classic – little black dress or slacks and shirt, delicately accessorised and not too heavy on the makeup.

5. Mobile phones
Unless you are on emergency call, unglue this from your hand/ear and keep it in your pocket or purse. If you want to take a few snaps of the party, go ahead, just don’t sit there afterward scrolling through your feed and ignoring your host and other guests.

A little note about posting party photos to social media. Check with your hosts first. Also don’t share photos of other people’s children without their explicit permission.

So there it is, a quick guide to 5 party etiquette do’s and don’ts that will keep you in fine party shape.

Happy celebrating life with a party!

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